As relationships grow older, certain things grow old too andyour time together may not be as exciting as it once was. This iscommon in many marriages and often times poses no real troubleother than a few boring evenings at home that can be cured with anight out with friends once in a while. There are times, however,when problems are more serious than one may have thought. Below areseven signs that may signal a marriage is in serious trouble.1. You No Longer Have Anything in CommonYou and your spouse may be under the same roof and sharing meals atthe same table but there is not much talking or interaction. Often,one or both partners sit at the table with the television on orwith a book, newspaper or other distraction. Just because you aresharing the same roof does not mean you are sharing your lifetogether.2. Everything One Does Seems to be WrongYou try to do something nice once in a while or clean before theother person gets home. You help around the house, offer to takethe dog on a walk or simply try to plan out an evening together butsomehow it always ends up in another fight. Do you often feelcriticized? Your spouse (or maybe you) never seems to appreciatethe nice things that are done.3. You are Always the Last to KnowDid you hear about your spouse’s promotion at work from someoneother than them? Do you often wonder where your partner is only tofind out that another relative or friend knows but you don’t? Whenyou are the last to know, there has been a huge breakdown incommunication between the both of you.4. A Change in AppearanceOver the time of your marriage, you will begin to feel morecomfortable with your partner and lose the desire to look beautifulor handsome all of the time. This is normal to an extent, but whenpersonal hygene and beauty no longer matters to you or yourpartner, it may be a sign that there is no longer hapiness in themarriage for one or both partners.5.Looking for Distraction from ProblemsIf you or your spouse always have “something” to do, this may be asign that your partner is trying to get away from marriage issues.Do you constantly want to be out of the house when your partner ishome? Do you find excuses to go places just to skip out on thefights and arguments? Maybe you just sit in your room or in theliving room with a book so no one distracts you.6. Arguing Over the Same ProblemYou and your partner constantly argue over and over about the samething that you both thought had already been solved last time youfought. There never seems to be a resolution to this or otherproblems and you constantly blame each other without coming to anagreement or saying sorry to one another.7. There is No IntimacyHas sex become non-existent in your relationship? Sex is more thanpleasure, it bonds you and your partner together and brings youcloser. If sex is no longer part of your lives together, you mayneed to get professional help.What you can do to save your marriage:Try going to a marriage counselor if you can’t seem to solve theproblems together. Your insurance may cover most of the charges orsessions associated with a counselor. If you don’t have insurance,your county or local community service will have free or low-costprograms to help you. The longer you wait to seek help, the morecomplex and difficult the problems will become and the harder itwill be to solve them. If you can’t find one, ask a friend and seeif they can refer you to someone. If you still have no luck findinga counselor, try asking your doctor.—————————————————————————–Sources:About.comhttp://divorcesupport.about.com/od/signsyourmarriageisover/tp/warningsigns.htm
