MODE of Cosmic Therapy: What are YOU truly Gratefulfor?That which we are truly grateful for can never be seen or known.It is beyond our comprehension or acknowledgment. Inherentgratitude is as natural as breathing but it is falsely exaggeratedwhen attributed to another. Divine gratitude allows us to“live, move, breathe and have our being.” So how couldit be possible to ‘thank’ another person for somethinghe/she is incapable of providing?Moving into the dark regions of self-doubt andinsecurity…However unpleasant these words may sound, they are none the lesspertinent for proper understanding to inhabit our temple/body/homewhile involved in various chosen relationships. We genuinelybelieve ourselves to be patient, gentle, kind, nurturing, lovingand supportive but we know deep down IF there’s not somethingin it for us; we are not all that enthused to participate. Peopledo what they do for the benefit of pleasure they receive, while atthe same time, and reduce the amount of pain. Believe it or not butin some cases, for the majority, pain acts as thepleasure benefit. Addiction would be one example, whether thataddiction be physical, emotional or mental. In other words, IF weare involved in a painful relationship, it is only because wederive some sort of pleasure from it. That does not have to makesense [most things fall in this bizarre category]; it’ssimply a universal fact.Pain, also disguised as pleasure displays itself another form:of assistance, praise, approval, validation, appreciation, honor,respect, pacification, flattery, benefit, help, support,admiration, validation and encouragement. In other words, painresembles pleasure when it gives/offers immediate relief from asituation we are not especially liking or comfortable in. The truthis: we need whatever uncomfortable circumstance we are currentlyinvolved in. But, be that as it may, as the ancient scripturesopenly declare: “…work out your own salvation throughfear and trembling…” (Paraphrased)The season will change and we with it, in time. Notice: therewas no mention of being relieved of the situation when it gotuncomfortable, messy or tiring. We are generally too impatient anddemanding. We want a quick fix! [A magic bullet designed to elicitfrom the relationship a concussively appealing and accommodatingready made lover/friend/confident and committed mate. Not so.Growth occurs in the midst of tension, friction and/orturbulence.Down the green mustard road…We are going to get down to the nitty-gritty. It’s a toughnasty journey, but necessary. This is where the chicken squat hitsthe fan! First of all, we are human; and, because we are, we arefallible, deceptive, manipulative and weak, despondent, selfish,wishy-washy, mad, vain, self-centered, whiny, envious, restless,competitive, jealous, paranoid, defensive, phony, and typicallydissatisfied. Bottom line, we are ‘all aboutus.’ Dependent upon how identified we are with the“Goody two shoes” idea we maintain about ourselves, ourlives will reflect the capricious inconsistencies. We want tobelieve we are ‘different’ from the rest of humanity.That we are in someway nicer, more humane, kinder, gentler, orcertainly more generous; in fact, we often rise up in defiance toprove how gracious we by undertaking benevolent acts of randomkindness.But, when we are unappreciated or unacknowledged, we show ourtrue colors, quickly. We know the meaning of working out ourproblems in solitude and secrecy but instead of doing what we KNOW(as the only self-sustaining appropriate, life generating way ofaction), we either blame, condemn or play victim in thetheatrically self-induced situation. Although we pretend to showanother face for our ulterior motives, we are ‘sick todeath’ disprortionately, and harbor deep resentment forhaving been “done wrong.”It’s My turn…(Now, take a deep unadulterated Convincing Breath) Once havingbeen convinced that we have been ‘done wrong’, weimmediately contrive to ‘get even’, ‘make theother pay’ or more importantly ‘gloat in thesituations’ where the other person ends up feeling miserable.We say, confidently and assuredly, “He/she deserves it forall he/she’s put me through. What I did I do is for his/herown good.” (Slight tilt of the head in prideful affirmation.)“After all I do or have done …” (Congratulatingyourself for the good decent person you are) “And, it sure ashell is not half as bad as ‘so and so’ and ‘thisand that’.” And, on and on you go elaborating (howwonderful you are) and emphasizing, detailing and exaggerating allthe things that were supposedly done to you!That’s all well and good, if that’s how you honestlyfeel. One can not deny honest feelings [no matter how ugly] at thetime, without debilitating complications. BUT then, we go and jumptracks! We complain about how we are under valued, unappreciatedand continue to be cheated on, lied to and taken advantage of. Howcan you have it both ways? I thought you said you were a caringdecent person, right? Decency involves “letting go’ ofbelligerent emotions. Before moving on, think about who the firstperson that comes to mind that you think you are grateful to. {IFthere is more than one person, name them in order ofimportance.}Time to Fall In love…Here’s the deal: “fall in love with the place whereyour feet are currently occupying and most assuredly, with theperson facing you. He/she is definitely an unwavering convincingprojection of you.” Stated affirmatively and simply, we mustbe totally involved with our life scenario exactly as it unfolds noexceptions; no matter what. IF we can suspend our overworkingnegative chatter, we will NEVER get stuck. We will never getcomfortable with phoniness. We’ never get lazy and fallasleep with the hypocritical elements of ourselves. But, workdiligently to wake up!We’ll learn to embrace the chaos and confusion in ourlife. Turn intangible divine forces into tangible form.—- Yeah!That’s right! We will use our sacred sexual artistic musicalactivity of antagonistic relationships to open our eyes ofinnumerable layers of unending potential in authentic creativeexpression. What unexplored ideal creations will we bring to thetable? Who knows? But, [while an onslaught of gracious artistictalent unfolds; there’s just one little glitch]; we mustcross the land of the barren unproductive devouringly uninterestingpointless fruitless unmanageable unsettling unnerving devastatinglydebasing hardship in our present involvements whereby the end ofcalamity is no where is sight; then, and only then, does the day ofliberating bliss break through.An exacting unavoidable esoteric point, shows us thatwe’re made of flesh and bones which bleed and break. We areliterally occupying a symbolic monastery learning the ways andmeans of how the best way to ‘serve out’ our precioustime on earth without superficial attribution. This simpledefinition is Gratitude!
